Socialization Catch-22
Positivity vs Complaints?
Have you ever found yourself caught in the dilemma of wanting to be a “positive person” yet feeling like if you talk about the good things in your life that you are irritating others or bragging?
Over the course of my life, I’ve found that most people engage in mostly negative conversation. Complaints about weather and health seem to dominate most conversations.
I’m approaching sixty six years old and my health is excellent. Many of us are interested in maintaining our health so it’s a topic I enjoy discussing but I get burnt out listening to other people complain about their health problems, yet being unwilling to actually take responsibility for their own health and do something about it.
Weather? Well, we really don’t have much control over the weather so it seems like overall having a generally positive attitude and enjoying whatever weather the day brings us is better than constantly complaining. People seem to think I’m downright weird for enjoying the physical activity of shoveling snow.
Is part of the problem with the USA (and the world) an overall negative attitude and lack of willingness to take responsibility to do anything to improve the world? It seems most people just want to push the responsibility onto the government (then we complain about how high our taxes are).
A constant complaint is the corruption and waste of our government. Yet now that is actually being addressed (rather than just hot air and empty promises from politicians to do something about it), we suddenly find the media freaking out that something is being done. Seriously? Would you rather it just continued? Sure there will be bumps, ups and downs, some people will get hurt, others will benefit, but from my point of view I’m thrilled to see actual improvement / progress!
Perhaps this is why so many people prefer the company of animals? Even when an animal is complaining (wanting to be fed or wanting attention) we find it cute and understandable.
Forget what I wrote the other day. I now understand your point more than ever, but in a broader sense of negativity. I noticed things before. However, your article sharpened my awareness. All the supposed “awake” have fallen back to sleep in a different way, though. They can’t see past the doom and gloom. I’m not on social media all that often anymore. Call it burnout. Maybe call it I just don’t find it all that interesting anymore. But, when I have been and I’ve come across something funny, music, lighthearted and/or odd stuff I’ve posted it. Just to lighten the mood up from every article and Substack Posting being about Tariffs, Covey, Jabs, Politics, Countries attempting a deja vu of 1939 or the JFK Files….. No one has watched, commented, or 👍❤️ anything I’ve posted. It’s crazy….. Maybe they’re now running a new program called _K Negativity?!?😉🧐🤫🤣Although, you’re right once more, apocalypse sells!
Celebrate, my dear! If you’re happy then be happy! John, you, of all people, would NEVER be bragging!! That’s not in your nature. You’re nice, kind hearted, helpful, responsible, patient, respectful, etc…. (My reply isn’t about feeding your very shy and humble ego, though.)
Why negatively and the blame game is so much easier to fall into is a good question. I don’t know. That’s a conversation and study that could go on for a long time. Is it because of the way we were raised, is it the alphabet agencies doing their jobs programming through the tv, movies, and music, is it due to societal influences, in general, is it due to the falsehoods of religion, is it because of the chemicals in the food we eat and the air we breathe, is it because most are in high rise buildings, busy with work, live in scarce surroundings, stuck in front of computers and have forgotten that we need to spend time in nature and feel the grounding of the earth, is it because, not only are we not in touch with earth, but we’ve forgotten how to feel the energy of the sun, is it a lack of laughter, is it lack of companionship or friendships, is it a lack of seeing people face to face, is it some hormonal or body deficiency or imbalance or dis-ease, is it because of the adulterated vitamins and ineffective meds, etc., etc., etc...???
In regards to the sun, when many do go out in the sun they have hats, dark sunglasses and enough “sunscreen” on to gag a maggot! Because they’ve all been programmed about how bad the sun is. They forget all those lotions block the good rays they need, but still let in all the harmful bs…..that helps bring on all those nasty sun cancer spots. But, most allopathic doctors continue to drink the updated Rockefeller and The Welcome Trust’s Kool-aid and kill people!
Ok....back to what I was saying.....
In the end, does the why or how matter?!? Minute details rarely do when it comes to complaining, depression, having feelings of desperation, experiencing extreme loneliness, anger, bitterness or like the whole world is against or out to get them! What’s that old camp song…. “Nobody likes me. Everybody hates me. I’m gonna eat some worms….” I forget the rest.☹️😭
You’re absolutely right, though, we all need to take responsibility for our health and lives...Period!!! It’s funny I should read your article or post today of all days. I learned that lesson the hard way thirty eight years ago. In fact, this day thirty eight years ago was one of the worst of my life. I won’t go into the scary details. I want to keep this in the G rating category.😉🤣 Just put it this way, you know it’s bad when you’re in the hospital only overnight and the only person allowed in your room is a guy in a white hazmat suit holding a Geiger Counter. Tomorrow is my 38th anniversary of being done with the cancer treatment from hell that no one else was ever able to tolerate even a portion of. The doctors still only gave me two years to live back then. I’ve now had two actual lifetimes of years since I went through everything. I was 18 back then. I wouldn’t have lived back then if I wouldn’t have learned about taking that responsibility. And, that I had a choice to make. I’m grateful I had the time to read three books during those dramatic four months. They didn’t save me!!!! They only assisted in opening my eyes. After all the years I wanted to die. I finally learned I had a choice in the matter! I chose life.....knowing full well my entire life was my responsibility!
I will say, I’m still better at taking care of others over myself. That my life is currently extremely f**ked up, It’s All My Own Fault and I’m clueless, ONLY at the moment, on how to see, change or get passed it. So I’m definitely still very human!!! It is still all my responsibility!!! And, yes, animals are so much better to be around than people!!!!
So En-Joy, my friend! Live your life “in joy” shoveling snow, doing your photography or whatever brings you contentment, a smile and happiness!!! You’ve gone through hardships and come out the other side. Celebrate and dance to the music! Others will have to learn their own lessons. You can give an encouraging word, maybe some advice or a helping hand to those you choose only when you choose. The rest…..tune them out.